by Jackson MacKenzie
In Psychopath Free, Jackson MacKenzie threw a lifeline to millions of people who found themselves drowning in toxic relationships. In this highly anticipated new book, WHOLE AGAIN: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self after Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse, Mackenzie offers readers the tools needed to heal from abuse and find love and acceptance as they continue on their journey towards wholeness.
Human wholeness is often defined as the unity of mind, body, and spirit. Emotional abuse, rejection, and trauma fracture this union, because a false shame message gets stored in our body that disconnects us from the sense of being unconditionally loved.
–Jackson MacKenzie, WHOLE AGAIN
Through his close work with thousands of survivors of toxic relationships as well as documenting his own experiences, Jackson discovered something that most of survivors have in common—a relational PTSD that can last for years after the end of the relationship. These symptoms and feelings—numbness, emptiness, depression, addiction—are the body’s way of signaling a deeper issue, a core wound that can’t be fixed by symptom management alone. WHOLE AGAIN offers actionable tools to guide survivors through the swirl of emotions into the eye of the storm. Armed with mindfulness, personal responsibility, and unconditional love, Jackson invites readers to:
- Identify the protective self: When our true self experiences a core wound, a protective self develops, which sees itself as an observer of the world rather than an authentic participant. A makeshift solution that can manifest itself in a variety of ways, the protective self keeps us away from the true source of our pain. Being aware of the protective self and how it manifests is the first step towards healing.
- Deconstruct the protective self: During the deconstruction phase, we learn the protective self’s triggers and the ways it manifests itself. We are encouraged to lean in even when it becomes uncomfortable. Those feelings are part of the story, a trail leading us to our core wound.
- Resolve the core wound: The core wound is the turning point. At this stage, we work to identify and explore different kinds of suffering with the ultimate goal in mind—discovering the source of the core wound, deciphering its message, and eventually untethering ourselves from its binds.
Heady stuff, but readers are in the hands of a gentle and experienced guide. In the spirit of Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection and John Bradshaw’s Healing the Shame that Binds You, WHOLE AGAIN offers hope and tools for healing to anyone trapped in the aftermath of a toxic relationship. In this trek towards wholeness, Jackson reminds survivors that their pain is real; they are not alone; and that with each day that passes, they are one day closer to living their best life.