by Pan Vera
According to Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication, “empathy is like riding a wave. The thrill is so exhilarating, you forget everything else. You live in the moment, nothing else matters, and you and the way become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, attendant to flow.”
When you have empathic consciousness, you understand what you have done or will, is do the best you know how to serve life at the time. In my work, we identify things that make life more wonderful when we experience them, and less wonderful when we don’t. We identify this as needs.
The needs I am talking about are not related to any person, place, or thing. They are universal, and cause all of our feelings. Think of Mutuality, Worth, Authenticity, Love, Capability, Trust, Fulfillment, Well-Being, Autonomy, Harmony, and Wholeness, to name a few.
Needs are the reason anyone does anything. Imagine the personal power you could have when you view life through these lenses. You would always be thinking about what you want instead of complaining about what you don’t have. You would realize there’s an infinite number of ways to have your needs met. This might reduce a lot of strain on some of your relationships where you’re not experiencing what you are expecting.
Plus, guilt and shame go quiet. Anger and resentment melt away. Life Serving Communication changes our consciousness so that the habits of the past are replaced by the passion of the present.
The term empathy didn’t come into the human vocabulary until 1909, about the same time when modern psychology began to explore the dynamics of the unconscious and conscious self. Yet Empathic Consciousness has been growing over 170,000 years. Now under the name of Emotional Intelligence, empathy is in great demand.
Want to learn more? Attend one of my 6-week study practice groups (see Community Events) or my upcoming Self-Empathy or Core Needs Class (see Classes/Workshops). Info/RSVP: 802-356-5358.